I am supposed to be beaten and hung somewhere to regain my memory.
Someone came replied to my mail about fear sometime back.
And he also asked a question that I promised to answer in the second-day email.
But look at me.
I forgot totally.
And while I was going through my mail today…
I saw the message and I hung my head in shame.
But then, it has happened and I feel I can redeem it.
According to the subject of this mail, I believe you know the topic of discussion already.
And if you don’t, here’s it:
How to conquer your fear!
And if I am to talk extensively on this, then you will realize there’s no answer for this.
Like none at all.
We are humans that have emotions.
We are not Goat (even goat self dey fear)
We can never conquer our fears.
This is one thing that’s keeping a lot of people from doing stuff.
You don’t conquer your fear.
You walk with your fear.
Let’s say you are walking on a very lonely road and you have heard a lot of bad stories about the road.
But you have no choice but to pass the road every day.
You keep passing the road with “One mind.”
So tell me, did you conquer your fear?
You just had to walk with your fear because you have no choice.
That’s it exactly.
If we keep waiting to conquer our fear before doing anything…
Then we won’t be able to do shit.
Fear is just a way to shield us from danger.
It’s a gift from God.
But some (most of us) are using it the other way round.
You are bound to get scared.
That shows you are not a psychopath.
But the only thing I feel we should all learn is…
How to manage our fears.
And I talked about it in my email concerning fear.
Learn to manage your fears by…
Acknowledging the fear.
Yes, feel the fear.
Know that you are leaving your comfort zone.
Let it do its work.
And after that, find a way to move with the fear.
It’s that simple.
And truth be told, we humans also hate leaving the comfort zone.
This is why anytime you try to stretch yourself.
You will be afraid of the consequence even though it hasn’t happened.
You try to start the gym? What if I break my arm while lifting the weight?
You try to get a course? What if it is a scam?
You try to ask a lady out? What if she says no?
You try to start a business? What if it fails?