I have been getting these questions since God knows when.
Dolapo, Are you single?
Dolapo, who’s your girlfriend?
And now, I am ready to answer these questions truthfully or not.
See, my relationship status isn’t complicated neither is it simple.
Or what can a man that’s actively looking for money do with a lady?
A lady that will require time and energy.
A lady that will one way or the other require me to spend on her.
Or so I thought.
Everything has always been in my head and I knew I am not even ready for a relationship.
Or else I fuck it up.
But these past weeks…
I have come to realize a lot that countered my beliefs about relationships.
And don’t get me wrong…
At least, I have advised and mended over 100 relationships and I am not bluffing here.
I was once a relationship coach around August 2020 to October 2020.
The reason the relationship brand folded up and others will be discussed in full details later.
But for now.
I know not all relationships require money but I know all require attention and possibly affection.
And I knew I wasn’t ready for this.
Because I am this person with a sense of responsibility.
Even though I don’t know the cause of that, but I have this crazy taste in women coupled with my plans of spoiling her.
So I believed I haven’t even gotten to that stage yet.
My earnings aren’t consistent yet.
I can’t even manage myself (not money-wise) talk more manage another individual.
But that was where I was wrong.
All these things will fall in place when you start.
You see, it’s more like starting a business.
You will always have excuses here and there for not starting.
I don’t know how to sell
But trust me, you can’t have it all figured out.
That was why when I started email marketing, I don’t even know how to hold a meaningful conversation.
I have always been indoor and there I was trying to write people in my tone.
Do I even have a tone?
It was hella hard but I did it regardless.
So starting anything can be scary, but you just have to start.
And that’s my first lesson for you today.
Secondly, don’t be so bent on your belief.
You might be dead wrong above your belief.
I am not telling you to be a dumbass that keeps changing belief over what everybody is saying.
But deep down, when the discussion about your belief is ongoing…
You will know your belief is wrong one way or the other.
Just like my belief about relationships.
It was not wrong but a big part of it is wrong.
And what did I do?
I adjusted and move on.
And I see people make one mistake.
Because they have gone against something before, when they realized it’s the fact.
They can’t bring themselves to talk about it again.
Or they sometimes keep being adamant and that make them big fools.
But it shouldn’t be that hard.
Nobody is the epitome of knowledge.
Just let your people know that you made a mistake then.
Or better still, you had a wrong belief.
But now you know better and you are ready to retract your statement.
Simple as ABC.
That’s why when writing a copy, you should never say you want to force people to change their beliefs.
Don’t do it.
You can only persuade them to change their belief.
And that’s where social proof and testimonials come in.
If I believe you can’t make one Naira online without being a yahoo boy.
And you want to change that belief because the more you force me, the more I call you a yahoo boy.
You do it subtly.
Start by showing me social proof of high individuals that have made money crazily online without doing yahoo.
Reframe my belief with discovery or quote from Forbes, Bloomberg, or any other big and respected publications about making money online legally.
And after this, bring it down to my level subtly by showing me testimonials of people that have made money online at my level.